What is trust? Is it solely the ability to tell a secret to someone else; knowing that this person will keep this secret?
What makes a person trustworthy?
What is trust between two people based on?
We trust our friend because it's our friend. Because we subconsciously feel that this person is trustworthy. We might even assume that someone we have just met is trustworthy. What generates those feelings? Actions? Thoughts? Appearance?
Trust, according to the dictionary, is assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something. But trust is also love. Trust is hope, friendship, happiness.
Trust is so many things.
So many things.
What makes a person trustworthy?
What is trust between two people based on?
We trust our friend because it's our friend. Because we subconsciously feel that this person is trustworthy. We might even assume that someone we have just met is trustworthy. What generates those feelings? Actions? Thoughts? Appearance?
Trust, according to the dictionary, is assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something. But trust is also love. Trust is hope, friendship, happiness.
Trust is so many things.
So many things.
I guess trust can be all or it can be just one of those. You see a good looking person, you trust they will be "good" to you and you set an overall trust benchmark for that person in everything relating to them.
ReplyDeleteI think that's the problem, trust should not be general and limitless. It should be defined with limits (time, place, circumstance, task, collaboration)
Exactly.
DeleteAnd I think good looks don't only affect trust; but a person might appear smarter, kinder, more stylish etc.. just because they're good looking. Which I believe happens unconsciously.
It's true. The subconscious is so powerful. It picks up on things you would imagine it did in a split second. Like when you first see someone, and before they talk your subconscious reads things like their facial expressions and tells you whether that person is happy, sad, trust worthy.... That happens before you even give it any conscious rational thought yourself.
DeleteThese are scientific findings you can read about it this book: Social Intelligence by Daniel Goleman.
He talks about one experiment that was done with a patient who had lost his eye sight from an accident. Pictures of faces where put in front of his eyes and he could still tell whether it was happy, sad, angry... It turns out that there was this other path directly from the eyes to an area in the brain that processes these signal subconsciously that was not damaged, only the path between his eyes and the part of the brain responsible for vision was damaged.
So next time you see some one and immediately get judgmental thoughts about them, you should take a minute and think rationally and instead letting your subconscious tell you what to think based on preconceptions and presumptions you might have picked up from your friends, family, culture, movie, etc.